Since returning from a wonderful visit home, I have found myself asking a question more often: what is a relationship? Is it after you’ve broken bread together or signed a contract or continuously bumped into one another at the gym?
Or is it based on whether you ‘click’ or not?
© Clare Munn
Roger’s 21st Century Thesaurus states:
accord, affair, affiliation, affinity, alliance, analogy, appositeness, association, bond, communication, conjunction, consanguinity, consociation, contact, contingency, correlation, dependence, dependency, exchange, homogeneity, hookup, interconnection, interrelation, interrelationship, kinship, liaison, likeness, link, marriage, nearness, network, parallel, pertinence, pertinency, proportion, rapport, ratio, relation, relativity, relevance, similarity, tie, tie-in, tie-up
Two words caught my eye: communication and consciousness. They stuck in my mind, and I began to think how wonderful it’d be if I could consciously watch my relationships grow. How we communicate with this person is paramount and it doesn’t matter who it is. Whether it’s the wonderful doorman who greets me every day and night, or the few minutes in the elevator with the chairman of a Fortune 100 company, our few seconds with anyone forms a memory. Isn’t a memory, then, part of our relationship file folder?
I am now pretty convinced it is.
This month I was in my homeland, Zimbabwe, and I watched myself slowly become less “New York” and more like my rather odd birth self. I realized even my relationship with myself was different, even if some psychiatrists would chuckle at such a thought. All I do know is I liked myself more.
Relationships – I now truly feel it’s about how we relate to someone tbat’s important. It’s the start of a relationship. The CQ™ approach can help us empathize and make this connection – we must thinking before we speak or act, wonder what is it that I want out of this, and consider what I think they want out of it. I believe it’s a pretty fair statement to say most of us want a pleasant and genuine exchange, no matter how brief the relationship might end up being.
I’ll end by saying I am thinking about my intentions more loudly and hoping all I come across aren’t harmed with my own personal noise.